Having teenage girls has been very stressful for this mom. I have one in high school and one in junior high. My 9th grader is an amazing student, and she is holding her own very well in this new academic arena. What worries me most is her loneliness. I had hoped that going to high school some of the junior high antics would be outgrown from the other girls in her private school, and that she would find at least one good friend. So far that hasn't happened. Whenever we watch movies about teenagers, it always makes her sad, because they almost always have friends. No matter their personalities, they have friends who accept them for who they are. Ciara is awkward socially but beautiful physically. She is an introvert, and she spent the majority of her childhood secluded from other children outside of our family living on a YWAM base in a remote location. Add to this, her mother was socially awkward and just like her. I'm not sure I understand the dynamics of going to a private school or how to be popular. She isn't the only new kid in the past 2+ years that she has been there. Other new girls don't seem to have the problems making friends that she does. She hasn't ever understood cut-downs or been able to discern between good-natured joking and rejection. Not being there, I can't help her to know whether her classmates are being mean to her, or if they really are just joking. Her stories are painful to hear. I don't know how to help her. On a good side, we are getting close again. We've always been close, but I think she is seeing me as a friend who cares.
My daughter in junior high is struggling socially, but also struggling to adjust to the new style of learning that is expected of a 7th grader. She has a few friends from our fellowship, so I tend to worry more about her academic struggles. She can't seem to grasp the whole thing of getting an assignment and keeping up with due dates, especially when it is a multi-due date assignment. She can keep up with assignments assigned one day and due the next - no problem. She totally forgets about the journal assignments due weekly, or the assignments that are due in the future. I've gotten her a student planner. She doesn't use it. I've explained its use to her time and again. Still I face today where she had two major writing assignments due today and she didn't know it. What is a mother to do? I'm so glad that this is junior high, so we have two years to get this ironed out before high school begins!
The following are some pics from fall around here... some are the new lake we have, and some are just random fall shots.
|The new lake beside our house|
|Isnt' this swing pretty with all the fall leaves? Tim made it this year.|
|Our hoop houses were flooded too. This ground didn't get wet like this with even the spring flooding. We were glad they were raised beds. I don't think anything got ruined.|
|This is our street with the leaves in full color. Most of the leaves have fallen now.|
|On one of the fall holidays down by the river is my son, Josiah|
|At school the kids had spirit week this week. This is my 7th grader and 9th grader being "twins"|
|Elly and Josiah were twins that day too|
|Elly pretending to be a mermaid on a rock!|
|Tim and Josiah celebrating one of the fall holidays. I sure appreciate having a fellowship that does these that we can celebrate together with.|